Immediate CPR For Parents
Parents who have lost a child face an immediate crisis and likely have no idea where to turn or what to do. There are a few things that should be communicated with a bewildered parent to help them get through their horrible first week that I call Immediate CPR for Parent's HeartsMore...
Major Decisions
If you have just lost a child, your heart is spinning, falling and tumbling. You have lost a huge part of your center, your desire and your will. Your decision making is and will be hugely different than it has previously been because you care very little about anything else other than being with your child. Therefore, it is important that you recognize that you are not in the frame of mind to make big decisionsMore...
You Are Not Alone
Unfortunately, others have been on this sad, sad road ahead of you, and you are not alone in this terrible experience. Perhaps the experiences of others could help you bear the incalculable burden you now bear.
Early on in my own steps in this canyon of grief, I realized that I was learning things in the process; profound things. To ensure that the things that I was learning stayed with me long enough to be able to build a foundation upon, I started to write them down. Over time I realized that together, the things that were of comfort and solace to me, might similarly be as helpful to others.
Eventually I built my notes into paragraphs and then chapters. What resulted was a book that I call You Won't Cry Forever. More...
Read Now From the Book
Your Goal
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"I Lost My Child"
IS THERE HOPE?
This is the most crucial question for your heart.
The answer to this question can make the difference in the rest of your life.
For there can be no question that your life is forever changed and that unfamiliar things now lie in the path before you.
But with these new problems comes the opportunity for new solutions. Your heart is asking questions that it has never had the need to ask before, but now it is crucial that certain questions which you now have be resolved with answers.
It is a bit like if you ran out of gas on the freeway; Until you have done so, you might not be sure what to do. But when you do, you suddenly pay real close attention to what steps will get things resolved for you.
Your current situation is like that. You might not have asked the big questions in the past, but life for you now demands that you get some answers to some of its' most important questions. Your soul is now asking questions it never did before and it needs answers that are solid
NEW HOPE
I spend a lot of time on this topic in You Won't Cry Forever. In fact, this is what the book is all about - the hope that my heart learned after I asked the very questions you are now asking.
I turned over every stone to get a glimpse of my son, or a clue as to how he was, what he was thinking or experiencing. And in that search, I found solid answers in some surprising places.
Not only did I find answers in what some might term as 'religion;' I also found, and perhaps discovered, some powerful reasons for hope as revealed in science. Furthermore, logic and certain ideologies also became my friends in the search for my child.
I have shared these openly and eagerly in the book because I honeslty believe that what helped me can and will also help you.
I did not plan this; I did not set out on a quest for all of this to happen or to write a book about being in our situation. Far from it, I so wish that I was not in this situation, as do you. But I am in the situation,nonetheless though it is not by my choosing.
All I did was love my son immensely. And when he was no longer here, that love did not change.
And as I trekked down this most terrible of paths, I found peace, comfort and hope.
It is my deepest wish that you find it as well